Today Nick graduated to the oncology floor from the Intensive Care Unit. This is a major milestone on many fronts. The biggest being that he is now free from the numerous wires, monitors and IV's that have burdened him for the past several days. I can only imagine how liberating it must have been for Nick to be rid of all of these things that were an invasion of his personal space. As a parent, this means that Nick is stable enough to not have to be monitored 24/7. The ICU is a very difficult place for parents. While in the ICU, patients are monitored continuously for heart rate, pulse, oxygenation, blood pressure, etc. The problem is that every time Nick would get irritated, upset or sometimes just rolled over, alarms would start going off. This is very unnerving at first since you automatically start thinking something terrible is happening.
Nick was able to walk a fair amount today with a little help. I am still in shock that a little over a week ago I was cheering Nick on while he made a tackle by dragging someone down in the backfield and now I am cheering him on for taking 5 steps to the door of the room. Deb and I keep looking at each other wondering how we got here.
So where do we go from here? Well, here is what we know so far. The tumor was a medulloblastoma. It also appears that there is an additional tumor located in Nick's spine. This now moves Nick from the average risk category to the high risk category. Nick will have to undergo a spinal tap to confirm the tumor in his spine and a complete bone scan to make sure that the tumor has not spread beyond the central nervous system to his bones (this is very rare, but possible).
The course of treatment for someone in Nick's situation is a combination of radiation therapy and chemotherapy. The radiation therapy will begin the week following thanksgiving and will require Nick to undergo treatment every day, 5 days a week, for 6 weeks. After radiation therapy, he will have a 6 week break before beginning his chemo treatments. He will receive 4 treatments in total. For each treatment, he will be required to be in the hospital for 2-3 weeks, with one week home in between. This is due to the fact that these treatments will destroy his immune system and he will be very susceptible to illness. To help boost his immune system, they will use a technique called stem cell rescue. The week before thanksgiving, Nick will spend 3 days in CHOP having stem cells harvested from his body. These cells will then be re-introduced into his body after each treatment to help give his immune system a jump start. Once his cell counts are up, he will be allowed to come back home until the next treatment.
So if you have followed all of this, we are all in for a very long 7 months. I have provided you with the reader's digest version. For those of you that are interested in more details, feel free to check out the following link.
http://www.abta.org/sitefiles/sitePages/D3A2C571CD0CDE16C0FFE57607F22A65.pdf
So, I would say that this Blog is appropriately named. Nick's road will be a long one, but one that will be lined with many friends and relatives cheering him on every step of the way. Our family is very grateful to everyone for their support and love.
38 comments:
Dave, We miss you guys terribly! I just keep picturing Nick, Jack and Peter fooling around walking out of Winner's Circle, after a night of celebrating, one week ago today. No one was prepared for what was coming in the following 24 hours and now the months ahead. My heart is breaking for you, Deb, Peter, Sam and of course Nick. I can only imagine the range of emotions you must all be going through. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please know we are all here behind you every step of the way. Thanks so much for keeping us informed, I hope it helps you as well. We will keep praying and routing Nick on throughout his recovery. He has a team of boys awaiting his return, and that day will be awesome!!!
Much Love,
Natalie and Mark
Dave, thank you for the update. There are so many of us thinking of you all and praying for you many times a day. What a relief to be out of the ICU! I know what that's like, and I'm happy you're out. I often fantasize about inventing a wrist alarm for the nursing staff so the beeps and alarms don't ring in the room and freak out the patient!
It's a tough road, but you know that you are at one of The Best places in the country for Nick's journey back to health. And you have a small army of people behind you...we all wish we could take a small part of this ordeal from you. We trust you'll let us know when we can help.
Sharon
Dave, we just learned about the situation and were so shocked and upset beyond any words. You know things happen but you never think certain things would happen to the family or the people you know and care. We can imagine Nick’s anger and frustration because we are equally frustrated and in a way felt helpless as well. We wish we could do something, anything to make it better for Nick and your family. We can also completely understand you setting up this blog and writing down the events and emotions. It is therapeutic to everyone and reminds us all how precious our kids, our families are. I did a quick online search and it seems that there have been significant improvement in the treatment and care in this condition in the past decades. This NCI website is quite informative though you may have checked it out already. And according to this site and some other sites, after surgery, radiation therapy followed by chemo and autologous stem cell transplant seems to be quite innovative. So hang on there and it is completely possible that a breakthrough treatment may be discovered in the near future to cure this condition for Nick and other kids!
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/pdq/treatment/childmedulloblastoma/Patient/page8
the Sanders family
Dave, Deb, Nick, Sam, and Peter - thanks for the update. Keep strong and small steps are just the beginning. No matter how long the journey, we will all be there with the Calvaresi family through every step.
Love the Porter Boys - Nick, Drew, and Brian - and all the Boston and Denver Porters
Dave, we just found out about Nick yesterday and have been sick with worry ever since. We have added Nick to our nightly prayer list and all of you are in our thoughts and prayers. Please tell Nick we are thinking of him and can't wait to see him up and around again. What a brave little boy! Our hearts go out to you--please let us know if there is anything at all we can do to help you out with anything (transportation for the other kids, meals, etc.). Take care. Neil, Terri, Sean and Alex Fanelli
Dave, thank you for continuing to share. Your writing is touching many people in many ways. More importantly we hope it helps you so that you can in turn help Nick and your family.
Dave, our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I am confident with all the love and support of your family and friends that Nick will pull through this and one day soon his laughter will be heard through out the neighborhhod.
Love, Joyce, Greg,
Katie and Kevin Bay
Dear David and Debra,
Thanks so much for taking the time to keep us all updated. Nick and your entire family are constantly in our thoughts and prayers. I can tell you from my personal experience I had a neurologist look me in the eye and tell me that basically my son would be in a helmet for the rest of his life and would never be able to speak so we might as well start looking at institutions for him (this was when Kyle was 2 years old). Well we all know that things turned out quite differently for Kyle because Bob and I and all of our friends and family never stopped fighting for him. We will continue to help you guys in whatever way we can and just keep remembering odds are just numbers and they can be beat!!!!!!
Bob, Dana, Kyle and Hannah Supplee
Dear Calvaresi Family,
We are so sad to hear the news about Nick. We hope that the knowledge that so many people are sending good thoughts and prayers your way will provide you some strength in the very difficult time. Jared wants Nick to know that he will be wearing Nick's number on his helmet this weekend during his football team's playoff game. God bless you all.
The Fruhwirth Family
It is great to know that Nick is getting better. He is a real fighter and has a lot of courage. We are very sorry that you have to go through this, no one should have to experience this much pain. We are praying for all of you everyday. And if you need any help, we are here...always! We can take Peter and Sam because we are close to both schools and we'd love to have them. Nicky, you can do just keep going! We miss you terribly and hope to see you well. We are praying and hoping. YOU CAN DO IT NICK!
Love,
The Strouds <3
David,Deb,Sam,Peter and Nick,
You are in our thoughts and prayers everyday. But we need to know how we can assist you in this journey. I can have the Malvern Mother's Club add Nick's name to the prayer list. Mary Ferrer is going to let me know what we as neighbors can do. If Peter needs a ride to a school activity, please let me know.
Love, Eleanor ,Ed and Boys
David, Deborah, Nicholas, Peter and Samantha
We just want you to know that all of our thoughts and prayers are with you right now and always. Please if there is anything at all you need, we are just a phone call away. Phil even said he will take care of the dogs for you!!! Now you know he is thinking about you. (I hope that brought a smile to your face if only for a second!)
Really though please let us know if there is ANYTHING we can do -- we are here for WHATEVER you might need -- day or night.
Give Nicholas a big hug and smile from us all and know we are sending all of our love and prayers your way.
Ann, Phil, Dan, Jake and Sara Zalkind
Dave and Deb,
Brian called to let me know what has been going on with Nick and I wanted to let you know Nick and the whole Calvaresi family is in our thoughts and prayers.
Ian, Steffen, Erika, and Chris
Count on a few more prayers for you and your family. Take care,
Cara
Prayers continue to come your way!
The Miller family
We can't wait to see Nick back to his 100% smiley self! Go Nick!!
-Sara
Deb,dave,sam, peter, & Nick
we miss you and were devasted to hear what you all have been going thru. Nick comes from strong hardy irish stock, when knocked down, we get right back up, without missing a beat. I truly feel he'll surprise everyone with his quick recovery. anything we can do to help, please call. love donna & harry
Hi C Family...the BW Family is pryaing for you all. We miss Nick and continue to send positive thoughts your way.
Norma Jean Welsh
Dear David, Debra, Sam, Peter and Nicholas,
Our hearts are overflowing for you. You are in our thoughts and prayers. I can put Nick on our church prayer chain- (calvary fellowship church) just let me know if that would be ok- God is the great physician. Try to take one day at a time. We are so hopeful and will continue to petition God with our prayers.
Love,
Bob,Karen,Morgan,Tyler, Madison and Cole Cichewicz
Dear Nick,
You and your family are constantly in our thoughts & prayers. You have a constantly growing number of "Prayer Warriors!"
Kyle (your second grade pen pal) and Kelsey both had their CCD classes pray for you tonight. It is said that God never gives us more than we can handle, so I guess He really does know what an amazing, brave and strong boy you are. Try to hang in there, Nick. You have a whole army of friends who will help you fight this battle!
Lots of love to you, and your whole family!
The Norths
Dave,
We just heard the news and wanted to let you know that we will be storming the heavens with prayers for Nick. We will add him to our nightly prayer list. Please tell Nick we are thinking of him and hoping he can come home real soon. We are so sorry you are all going through this and we will be with you every step of the way. Please let us know if you need anything at all.
The Meyer's
Steve, Sheila, Jessica and Bailey
Dave and Deb, Please know that you, Sam, Peter and most of all, Nick, are in our every thought during this very emotional time. Nick's a tough kid!! He won't be fighting this alone - he has so many friends that will be there to support him. We'll help in any way we can. Thank you for the updates on Nick's progress.
With love,
Betsy and Chris Hudson
Dear Dave and Debra:
Karen and I just found out about this yesterday. We cannot even begin to imagine what you must be going through. Please know that you are not alone and that Nick is in our thoughts and prayers. Please give him a big hug from us and to keep his chin up. He WILL beat this!
With Love,
The Shakour family
As a community, we need to wrap our arms around this family and support them in any way we can while still protecting their privacy. One of the ways that we will achieve this goal is by creating an online calendar designed for organizing helpers that can pitch in with meals, rides, and other tasks necessary for life to run as smoothly as possible for the Calvaresi Family during this time of need. This type of system will allow them to receive our support with little interruption to their time together as a family. We are all desperate to help, but we need to let the Calvaresi's write the rules on what they need and when they need it. If you would like to be involved, please email me at ferrer6@comcast.net and I will invite you to join this community. I will need your name and email address. You will then receive an email with a code that will allow you to join. We are not sure when Nick is coming home, but if we could get everyone signed up, we could have it up and running by the time he does. I know everyone is anxious to help, but be patient, it will be a work in progress as we find out what works and what doesn't.
Thanks,
Mary Ferrer
Thank you for sharing. Nick will always be in my prayers. My god bless him with strength, patience, good health and a quick recovery.
Monzer Elabbasi
Calvaresi Family,
Just wanted to let you know that our thoughts and prayers are with you. Please seek comfort in the knowledge that there are many praying for Nick and the Lord will bless him and keep him strong.
The Britt Family, Maine....
Kristen, David (the Bricker), Hayden, Jenks & Marin
Thank you for sharing and updating on Nicholas' condition. Always remember that caring is all around your family. The many kind thoughts and prayers will certainly provide strength to all of you at this time. Nicholas is in our prayers. Take care and tell Nick to keep smiling.
The Asmann Family, Dina Chuck, Stephen and Andrew
The Fantazzia family will keep Nick and the Calvaresi family in our prayers for his entire "Road to Recovery". Stay Strong!
Dear David and Family:
I just learned of this yesterday through Mike R.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family has been added to our church prayer chain.
Be strong, have faith..I know Nick can be beat this!
Janice Stites
Dave and Deb,
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. The love that surrounds Nick is truly inspiring and I cannot think of stronger parents than you two.
Love,
Steve
David, Deb, Sam and Peter; Nicholas and all of you are in our thoughts and prayers. We wish Nicholas a smooth recovery and to hear he is back on the Football field again real soon. We send out heart filled prayers of strength you all of you. Please let us know if you need anything at all we are here for you all.
With love and heart felt prayers
Chris, Gillian, Meghan and Kirsten Young
Dave and Deb,
God knows what's in your heart and what you need before you even ask. He knows the outcome of every situation and is guiding you even when you feel lost and scared. He will give you and Nick strength in these next seven months and Nick will be back on that football field- stronger than ever. Please know that we are here for you and are praying for all of you.
Love,
Andrea and Bill
Dave and Deb-
I received this and immediately thought of you guys-
May today be all you need it to be. May the peace of God and the
freshness of the Holy Spirit rest in your thoughts, rule in your dreams
to night, and conquer all your fears. May God manifest himself today in
ways you have never experienced. May your joys be fulfilled, your dreams be
closer, and your prayers be answered. I pray that faith enters a new
height for you; I pray that your territory is enlarged. I pray for peace,
healing, health, happiness, prosperity, joy, true and undying love for God. God
promises a safe landing, not a calm passage.
Andrea
Deb,Dave, Sam, Peter, and Nick,
I am in shock over this whole thing. I just wanted to thank you for keeping us all up to date with everything that is going on it is very helpful to be able to read this. All the coaches at BCY are praying for you all and thinking about you everyday. Please let us know what if anything that we can do to help. We miss Nick, Sam, and Peter and are happy to hear that there has been good progress with Nick. Give Nick a big hug for me!
Coach Sarah
Dave, we just found out about Nick's situation yesterday at CCD at St. Elizabeth's. The entire school, as well as our family, is praying for him! We are SO sorry that he has to face this! Having spent time in CHOP for our daughter's open heart surgey, we can tell you are in a great place but that doesn't make it any easier to bear, as a parent. We know that God is watching over Nick and, with the constant intercessions of your family & friends, Nick's name must never be far from His thoughts! Before you know it, Nick will be back on the field (both football and baseball) tearing it up...we look forward to that day. In the meantime, we'll be praying and routing for each daily victory.
With all our best,
Matt, Ginny, Caroline, Luke & Sophia Swiatek
Dave,
We are so happy to hear that Nick is making progress. I'm sure it is very hard for him to not be able to do all the things he was doing only a week ago. That would be difficult for anyone, let alone a child. He has so much love and support surrounding him and that alone will help him to fight.
What a strong boy he is. Just keep telling him to fight hard and he will be home soon. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Thank you for keeping us updated - we know that must be tough on you. Take care,
Sheila, Steve, Jessica and Bailey
Dear Calvaresi Family,
I was so sad to hear of this news for Nick and all of you. You will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Please tell Nick I know that he will tackle this horrible disease.
Tell him to have this mental picture
- its third and three and the cancer has the ball- Here comes Nick Calvaresi and he makes the tackle for a loss of yardage. Its your ball now. You picture yourself making that stop Nick! You can do it.
Love The Chambers Gang
(Bert, Grace, Stef, Val and Jack)
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